My dreaming experiences

I have this very weird habit of sleeping all the time on my off days..... What a lazy way to spend a day? I mean of course I don't sleep for 24 hrs...but around 13-14 hours is an average if I don't have some other work to do.


There is a very good reason behind my oversleeping...During all those extra hours that my 'mind' (and body for that matter) does not need relaxation, I make it a point to let it (my mind) wander freely. I often enjoy the pattern my mind follows during that time and thus am able to weed out the negativities that I carry during my working days. Though I try to address the problems that have their roots somewhere deep inside, I am not always successful in eliminating them completely and those negetivities keep coming again and again. But in spite of that I feel very free...


Though many researches and studies have indicated that oversleeping is not good for health, with due respect to them it has never caused me any problem...in fact it has solved many of my problems. Some may consider it a waste of time and others may regard it a baseless theory...but it works for me and may work for others if they try to see it from my perspective.


One of my friend Nidhi Singal, who posted her comments in my blog argued, that 'mind never stops thinking and our subconscious mind dominates our sensibilities.' She also added there is nothing like 'training' our mind. Nidhi is very correct when she says that mind never stops working. When our active mind is well asleep, the subconscious mind starts working and take the liberty to get creative...and thus we see dreams....But I must tell you Nidhi that the story does not end here...it goes on and on and on....



See, I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, I am just an ordinary person who's talking about dreams without even knowing any theories of dream...I am only sharing my experiences with you so that I can learn from your 'dream-experiences' too. Anyway, we can and we have to train our mind for solving some greatest mysteries of the time and believe me Nidhi I am not saying this just for the sake of saying..


So, let me share some of the 'trainings' that I have given to my mind...



1) Meeting my relatives in dreams: When I was about 8 years old, I was very attached to my relatives in dehradun...of course since I live in Delhi...I could meet them only occasionally...I found out a way out by including them in my dreams everyday "manually". Here manually means by efforts or training. I had to control my dreams for that and it sometimes got very hectic. It was then when I realised that I could construct my own dreams and weave my own world of imagination. It was fun.

2) Me and my bicycle: When I was around 10-12 years old, I wanted to learn riding bicycle. I didn't know it. Since I was extremely introvert I could't request anyone to teach me that. Around that period I regularly dreamt of cycling across my whole society. I enjoyed it to the core. Then slowly to my surprise, I learnt it on my own. Once I could ride the cycle in reality, I stopped constructing that dream.

3) Learning to fly: I fear heights in real life. Whenever I look down from the balcony of my third floor apartment (even though it's not much high), I am petrified. Something strange happens to me. For many years, this fear of height continued to haunt me in my dreams. I used to fall from a height in my dreams only to find me shouting and my mom asking why i am sweating. I soon realised that it was a dream and whatever has to happen will happen anyway..so why fear. It was then when I started constructing my own dreams on falling from a height and even flying. I actually started enjoying falling from a very high building in my dreams from then onwards. I have also been flying in my dreams after few unsuccessful attempts. In the beginning, my mind was not programmed for flying..so i used to fall when I jumped to fly up. Slowly, I instructed my mind to fly. Now i can fly very high without fear of falling down. That was an achievement for me.

There are many things that I can do in my dreams. If you can do the same, please share your experiences with me....And if you have never been doing it then you can atleast give it a try...

The 'dream-maker'

When was the last time you found yourself helpless in your dream.....weeping....even dying to come out of that dream? You might have been relieved after you woke up and must have resumed your day by saying- "comeone it was just another dream." But did you try to find out ever what the dream signified...or what your sub-conscious mind was trying to tell you. I bet most of the people laugh off their dreams as mere khurafaat of mind.

Like Apoorv and Nishu (my friends who posted comment on my first post), many of you must have been wonderning how the world of dreams works. While Apoorv feels that dreams often help us to solve day to day problems to some extent, if not totally, Nishu finds the 'trip to the dreamy island far precious than otherwise cruel life.' Very true, that's the very magic of the dream-world.

I talked about 'construction of dreams' in my previous post. Well, I accept that I make my own dreams..not always but whenever I feel like...For this, I have to train my mind for several days to seek permission from my sub-conscious mind to do my bit of work on dreams..I must tell you that sub-conscious mind is very strong. It always tries to control your dreams. But for ruling your dreams, you must have a great imagination. Chances of constructing your dreams increase when you have a strong desire to do something that you cannot do in reality...For example- flying....Can you fly in reality?..of course not....can you fly in your dreams?..yes of course...

But how?

Well, let's take my own example. It has now been six years since I am flying..not in reality of course. But mind you, I had to learn how to fly even in dreams..So you have to learn everything you see. As far as construction of dreams is concerned, I have been doing that for 12-13 years now. May be I don't strive to achieve things in real life and those hidden desires take the form of dreams....but I am sure that's not the sole reason behind by creativity as a 'dream-maker.'

How do I make dreams?

Well, it's a little difficult to explain, but let me try. What if in the middle of the film Devdas (Sanjay Leela Bhansali's) , Paro suddenly says- hey I am Aishwarya Rai, what am I doing here? I need no director, I want to meet my Devdas. Similarly, in our dreams, if we suddenly discover that the situations are phoney and not real, while still asleep, then we can add our own inputs to the dreams and become a 'dream-maker.'

Let us take another example...You are being chased by a monster in a dream..you are terrified to bits and you just want to run away from that situation...Now suddently you realise that this whole thing was a dream. What would you do? Would you let your subconscious mind rule over your dream or decide to give a twist to the dream? Ok, suppose you want to give twist to your dream. Here the role of your strong imagination starts. Now you know that the monster is not real, it's just the product of your sub-conscious mind's creativity. Then, why fear? You can do something as bizarre as talking to him about India-Us nuclear deal. Or if you choose to do something more creative, then you can actually kill the monster with a secret power you just discovered you have. It depends whether you love action films, soap operas or talk shows.

I hope you enjoyed reading this 'dreamy' post.....Watch this space for more 'dreamy' stuff

Do dreams speak..?

Friends... you all must be wondering what this blog is all about.....hmm...dreams! But do they deserve discussion? Afterall what's so special about them? You wake up and forget about the experience you have gone through the whole night. They are like scattered pieces of your thoughts that make you laugh, cry, scream, fear, enjoy....They are the regular part of your life but still you are unable to relate with them.

Now...let's do some reality check...Are our dreams so unreal that we cannot infer anything from them...or we simply ignore them just because we don't have time to ponder over their meaning...Well, I believe that nothing in this world is 'without a reason.' And I sincerely believe that dreams do indicate something that we don't understand until we train our mind to go beyond the usual....

Ever thought of constructing your own dreams...I bet, most of you have not. But can we really construct our dreams? The answer is yes, we can. Just like poetry, stories, articles...dreams can also be made and you can play with your subconscious mind while you are asleep.

So, the next time, while watching your favourite Harry Potter movie, just remember that if you really want, you can weave this magic world inside you...

We'll discuss in the next post what dreams try to tell us and also how to construct dreams....

Till then...I am waiting for your responses...Tell me even if I sounded silly in this article..Afterall if you have read my article this far, you surely would be eager to know...what next?